| Being Prepared and Sticking to the Plan |
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| Written by Avril |
| Wednesday, 06 January 2010 |
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Yesterday Stephen and I were going to pick up Michael and Rachel from the train station (they had been on a trip to Dublin to s ee the pantomime Robin Hood with their grandparents, pantomime was excellent!).
Stephen was excited to go the train station, he loves trains and even though Michael and Rachel were only away for one night, he missed them. We got to the train station early so I decided to pop into the supermarket and get milk and bread. However I just decided to do it on impulse and it was not part of Stephen’s plan. We got the bits in the basket and then had to wait in the queue. Stephen thought I had forgotten about going to the train and went ballistic (shouting and hitting) with me. I had to abandon the shopping.
Most days I’m fine but sometimes Stephen’s ‘special needs’ (we don’t have a diagnosis) get me. I was upset, all I wanted was to get some bread and milk and I couldn’t. Sometimes I get tired of constantly have to plan, prepare, have a picture, watching for triggers…a baby started crying while we were standing in the queue, maybe that contributed to Stephen’s outburst.
There I’ve said it, it’s hard. Some days I need to sit on my ‘pity pot’. And then I have to kick myself off it! Anyway onwards we go, learn the lesson and move on. Best wishes as always, Avril |
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